To successfully manage stress you will need to emotionally “de-clutter” your life and attract the things you want closer to you. Use the following 9-steps to learn how to cope, make positive changes and bring your stress-free living strategy closer to a reality:
- Accept the problem.
You have to be at peace with a problem whilst it still exists for the solution to come to you. Specifically you have to accept yourself as you are where you are no matter what – you cannot solve any problem without first accepting it, and yourself. We spend so much of our time trying to deny what has happened (or deny a part of ourselves), just pushing it away. This only leads to more of the problem appearing – or worse continually reappearing – in your life. Very often the simplest solution is to fully accept that there is a part of you that is creating the problem. Acknowledging and accepting will be enough to have it disappear mainly as it is so used to being pushed away/rejected. Part of you is trying to send you a message – maybe it’s time you listened. - You cannot attract to you that to which you are not already connected.
Begin to learn to appreciate others and everything. One of the fastest ways to attract what you want towards you is learning to appreciate the good in whatever situation it is life is presenting you with. Being an appreciator is so important because it is the closest energetic vibrational match to source and therefore the creation of what it is that you want. The more you operate at that frequency, the closer to source you are, and the faster things will manifest for you in the physical world. It is not important to verbalize your appreciation but simply to recognize it and offer it in return. Appreciation is the antidote to some of the lowest forms of energy and emotions we are capable of such as shame, resentment, etc. As Ann Landers suggested: “Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head.” It becomes a self-fulfilling downward spiral. Instead rise above such negative energy to become an appreciator. By offering thanks and assuming you innately already have what you seek, you will begin to attract more of it towards you, whether you have any of it or not. - Happiness is not pleasure.
The experience of pleasure is a right now, in-the-moment, sensory-rich, and sights, sounds, and feelings experience in your person. Happiness is experienced when thinking about something that brings you such pleasure. Happiness cannot be experienced by the senses directly, only pleasure can. Focus your life on having more now-moment pleasure experiences, rather than accumulating reasons or things to be happy about. - Stay connected to your inner source.
Find your own personal way to stay connected to your higher consciousness (your inner source or the “feeling” you). For many this is meditation, music, song, etc. Why are we so attracted to parks? Is it the water? The tranquility in nature, diversity in wildlife or majesty of the animals? We have awareness on some level that we are part of a much greater collected consciousness, something else, something higher than us. Some people may be partially unaware of it, but one can never fully disconnect from it. Observe that the word emotion is “e” + “motion”. Notice how the concepts are so connected even on a linguistic level. Did you know that elephants are one of the very few creatures other than humans who cry tears of emotion? And when was the last time you saw an elephant running? They have adapted or have been given an ability to release emotions from tears in the same way humans do. We are attracted to their inner source because we recognize that’s where we want to be, we want to have those feelings, we want to experience that energy, because the energy, just by being in its presence, makes us feel better about ourselves. - Live in the moment.
We only have access to our full personal power in the present moment. This is a habit to be developed, a life-skill. The extent to which you are connecting on some unconscious level, either into the past or into the future, is the extent to which you rob yourself of your present power. You are not going to be experiencing what it is that you want; therefore you are moving your emotional point of attraction, into negative territory. Being in the present moment is the only way you can make an emotional connection to what it is that you want, and therefore begin the process of that object/person/thing becoming attracted to you in future present moments. This type of emotional alignment cannot be achieved when your thoughts are in the future or past. “But how much do I need to be in the present moment? I have all this stuff to do…..” You must be in the present moment enough to have sufficient pleasurable, positive full body feelings, about what you want to attract in your life, in order to begin the process of its automatic reciprocal attraction to you. Living with your thoughts at a future or past moment in time, is entirely redundant in the process of being free of stress, and attracting what you want into your life. - You can never be everything for everyone.
You can never be sorry enough to change this problem situation. It is only when you love yourself that you have that love to radiate to others. It is only when you are allowing the abundance to flow to you, that you then have the ability to gift it to others. Giving your energy – in any form – to others, whether it is love, forgiveness, agreement, or any energy, when your cup is not already brimming over, is the fastest route to the emotional poorhouse. If you want to help others, you must first help yourself. Others easily see through empty gestures, compliments, or favours. Such gestures only hide you from your own emotional impoverishment/malnutrition and are not useful, serving no purpose in enhancing your life or others. - Be selfish enough to line up with your intentions.
This is important because it is only in your thriving that you have anything to offer others. If your own energy tank is not full, you have no business looking after the tanks of others. It is essential to limit your own responsibilities to prevent emotions such as helplessness, lack of self-worth, etc. Remain present and attend to your own needs first and you will always give others your best, automatically. - You are not your accomplishments.
Understand that you are not your accomplishments. What you do, what you don’t do, your beliefs, your ideas, your stuff or possessions, those are nothing to do with who you really are. Those items are the baggage you have picked up along the way and have nothing to do with the spiritual you who want to feel good and stay connected to Peace. Lose your ego and and take this attitude of freedom with you in your everyday life. - Life’s journey is the destination.
Many times our internal dialogue says “If only I had x, then I would be happy”, or, “I’ll be happy when I’ve got…” As you go into the world and experience the contrast of your likes versus your dislikes, through your everyday experiences, so a new want is born. Then comes the striving (and usually struggle) in the journey towards its manifestation, which contains all the stresses and strains you wish to rid yourself of. Understand this: you’ll never get it done. Because the journey itself towards your wants shows you new elements of contrast, new possibilities, new likes and dislikes, etc. that change and alter your path. Thus your job here is not to get caught up in the end result but to ensure you enjoy the journey along the way, regardless of your goal, and ensure that your everyday journey contains all the same underlying experiences, emotions, and full-body feelings that you seek from your end goal anyway. Life’s journey is the destination – enjoy it!